・flat fee (n.)：定額料金
a wide road that allows traffic to travel fast through a city or other area where many people live
a large long road that you pay to use
a main road for travelling long distances, especially one connecting and going through cities and towns
Are you a giver or a taker? 4/13
The speaker, an organizational psychologist, talks about takers, givers, and matchers in organizations.
Takers are self-serving in their interactions. The opposite is a giver who has an altruistic spirit. And most people are matchers following the norm.
When you build good organizations, you should keep the takers off to organize an environment without exploitation.
If you can help each other in the organizations without takers where you feel comfortable, you change your mind that success is not competition, it’s to contribute.
He believes that the most meaningful way to succeed is to help others succeed, so he insists we should protect a culture of givers.
The power of vulnerability 4/14
She turned out through her studies that worthiness is the courage to be imperfect, the compassion to be kind to yourselves first and then to others, to invest in a relationship, and to embrace vulnerability.
One of the ways we deal with vulnerability is to numb our emotions, but you can not selectively numb emotion. If you want to numb emotions to avoid some bad feelings, like fear or shame, you numb joy, gratitude, and happiness too.
And it also numbs your heart when you try to make everything that’s uncertain certain. So politics, like today, there is just blame instead of discourse or conversation. That’s a way to discharge pain and discomfort.
If we stop screaming and start listening, we can become kinder and more gentle to the people around us. The point is that we should accept the whole-hearted, and believe we are enough.
What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness 4/15
While the millennials are thinking about the most important life goals, which are to get rich and to become famous, the speaker turned out through the study that he has been tracking the lives of 724 men for 75 years that good relationships keep us happier and healthier.
When it comes to good relationships, he says 3 points.
The first is social connections are really good for us, and people who are more isolated than they want to find that they are less happy.
The second one is the quality of your close relationships that matters, not the number of friends you have and not whether or not you’re in a committed relationship.
The third one is that good relationships don’t only protect our bodies but also protect our brains.
Finally, he summarized this presentation that the good life is with good relationships through quotes from Mark Twain.
Get comfortable with being uncomfortable 4/16
She realized through her experiences that fear has a very concrete power of keeping us from doing and saying the things that are our purpose.
Keeping things the way is comfortable, and they are just maintaining the status quo. So we get comfortable with being uncomfortable by speaking these hard truths when it’s necessary.
When she says hard things, she asks herself Did you mean it? Can you defend it? , and Did you say it with love?
In this presentation, she expresses that to speak up is to be the domino. And being the domino comes down to being exactly who you are.
She thinks if bridges as the common ground aren’t based on truths, they will collapse. So we need to speak the truth and be the domino, especially when it’s difficult. And she hopes that the next person that sees this is inspired to be a domino, and the world will change for the better.